Guilt Free

You don't have to pay for it but you do. Guilt is the number one emotional controlling device used by loved ones to get what they want or what they believe to be right. Parents, spouses, friends and siblings all use guilt to get what they need. Our Government just uses good old fashioned abuse. So get your crowbars ready to open those wallets to "bail out" those less middle classed then you. (We need a good revolution in this crappy country, scumbags)
Can you be guilt ed into doing something you'd really rather not do? Do you have the strength to say "no, I'm not being guilt ed into that"? Are you focused enough to not feel bad and crumble when a loved one (spouse or gf/ bf) makes you feel bad about being the person you are, when you've only heard good things from most?
If you are one of the fortunate few who obtain that personal power and can walk away from the proverbial pile of bricks then congrats. I've found out that many people cannot. If you're lucky you have a friend or two who can be a coach and prepare you for that guilt ridden bout around the corner. If you have difficulty, and your loved one is great at using logic to mathematically corner you, then think way out of the box. Go to places where logic cannot prosper. Go to the needs of the individual.
I've heard "that's not normal" or "you're way to old to..." and even "no one else I know does that" and maybe even " most of the world doesn't do it that way". The "it's" and the "what's" are irrelevant for right now. It's the crazy maker in your life that just doesn't see things the way you do and will persist with the brick loading until your knees buckle and your back gives out.
There is a great way to stop this attack on your mind, simply say "I don't/ I won't accept your guilt anymore". It's worded kind of new age-like and flaky, but not only does it bring the reality to the front, it startles and sometimes angers the attacker. Which can be both hysterical and decisive for your argument.
Go for it if you suffer from the guilt you've been ask to carry. Be strong even if your ripping apart on the inside. If you have to leave the room right after because your sick due to the confrontation, go and leave. These polite predators are feasting on the innocent and easy-going, and there response sometimes is "well, if you can't stand up for yourself, then that's your problem". Well, not accepting their guilt openly is like walking around with a sawed off shot gun under your trench coat.
It only has to be fired once, and then they'll flinch and change their approach. Maybe even learning from the experience.
The sun came out today, after a Grey, warm and slimy weekend.
Good day to buy a shotgun.